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October 9th, 2007


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01:21 pm - how are you sad?
kitty, who i guess would know, told me yesterday a list of typical differences between the male and female experience of depression. i come out with 3 male, 3 female, and 1 neutral. i'm curious how other people match up, so here is a poll for you. i'll tabulate this (by gender, and anything else that strikes me as interesting) for your various edutainments, but i won't say who said what, in case anyone cares.
i've starred the ones that are me.

Poll #1068545 how are you sad?

you consider yourself

male
8(28.6%)
female
20(71.4%)
else
0(0.0%)

1

*female: you turn pain inward (take it out on yourself)
16(59.3%)
male: direct pain outward (take it out on others)
4(14.8%)

2

female: you feel anxious and scared
8(30.8%)
male: you feel suspicious and guarded
14(53.8%)

3

female: you feel you were born to fail
12(48.0%)
*male: you feel the world set you up to fail
11(44.0%)

4

female: you feel slowed down and nervous
10(38.5%)
*male: you feel restless and agitated
13(50.0%)

5

*female: you have trouble setting boundaries
11(42.3%)
male: you need control at all costs
13(50.0%)

6

*female: you feel guilty for what you do
15(55.6%)
male: you feel ashamed for who you are
10(37.0%)

7

female: you are uncomfortable receiving praise
10(37.0%)
*male: you are frustrated if not praised enough
9(33.3%)


note! kitty has posted a whole bunch more differences in the comments, if yer interested. i don't feel like making another poll tho, so science will just have to suck it.
np: Shooby Taylor - The Human Horn - 02 - Lift Every Voice and Sing

(9 shots upside the head | en garde!)

Comments:


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From:miss_geek
Date:October 9th, 2007 05:46 pm (UTC)
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i can't do it because i'm not sad.

also, i think if you had left off the "male" & "female" labels in the poll you'd get more accurate answers. i tried to start answering but i was choosing based on the label and so i stopped.
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From:kingnixon
Date:October 20th, 2007 04:38 am (UTC)
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i guess i could've left off the labels, and tabulated it all after. but ya know, i didn't really care enough to bother. so this still gives you a good sense of the spread
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From:kingnixon
Date:October 20th, 2007 04:38 am (UTC)
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also: yay not sad!
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From:plotsthicken
Date:October 9th, 2007 05:47 pm (UTC)
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total list:

Females: Turn their pain inward
Males: Direct their pain outward

Females: Blame themselves
Males: Feel others are to blame

Females: Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless
Males: Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated

Females: Feel anxious and scared
Males: Feel suspicious and guarded

Females: Avoid conflict at all costs
Males: Create conflicts

Females: Cover their pain by being nice
Males: Are overtly or covertly hostile

Females: Withdraw when feeling hurt
Males: Attack when feeling hurt

Females: Have trouble with self respect
Males: Demand respect from other

Females: Feel they were born to fail
Males: Feel the world set them up to fail

Females: Feel slowed down and nervous
Males: Feel restless and agitated

Females: Trouble setting boundaries
Males: Needs control at all costs

Females: Feel guilty for what they do
Males: Feel ashamed for who they are

Females: Uncomfortable receiving praise
Males: Frustrated if not praised enough

Females: Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses and doubts
Males: Terrified to talk about weaknesses and doubts

Females: Strong fear of success
Males: Strong fear of failure

Females: Need to "blend in" to feel safe
Males: Need to be "top dog" to feel safe

Females: Use food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate
Males: Use alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self medicate

Females: Believe their problems could be solved only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, or friend.
Males: Believe their problems could be solved only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them better.

Females: Constantly wonder, "Am I loveable enough?"
Males: Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved enough?"

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From:kingnixon
Date:October 10th, 2007 04:16 am (UTC)

ones that are me

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Females: Turn their pain inward

Males: Feel others are to blame

Females: Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless

Females: Avoid conflict at all costs

Females: Cover their pain by being nice
Males: Are overtly or covertly hostile [passive agressively]

Females: Withdraw when feeling hurt

Females: Have trouble with self respect

Males: Feel the world set them up to fail

Females: Trouble setting boundaries

Females: Feel guilty for what they do

Males: Frustrated if not praised enough

Females: Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses and doubts

Females: Need to "blend in" to feel safe

Females: Use food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate
Males: Use alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self medicate

Males: Believe their problems could be solved only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them better.

Males: Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved enough?"

tally: female 11, male 7
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From:kingnixon
Date:October 10th, 2007 08:54 pm (UTC)

okay also

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Females: Believe their problems could be solved only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, or friend) dan.

and maybe Females: Feel they were born to fail. that sounds to me like fated/deserve to fail, which i don't feel. but like genetic propensity? that shit ain't my fault
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From:plotsthicken
Date:October 10th, 2007 08:58 pm (UTC)

Re: okay also

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you come from a long line of failure.
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From:melley
Date:October 10th, 2007 02:20 am (UTC)
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i started to take that poll and then realized i was just marking everything.
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From:amyawesome
Date:October 10th, 2007 02:27 am (UTC)
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I can't even relate to half of these options...

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