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September 25th, 2007
 | 12:30 pm - did i speak? had i spoken?
i go downstairs the other day to put an extension cord in the basement. fokion is mopping the floor in the kitchen. here's the conversation from my point of view.
fokion: hey
dan: hey
fokion: what does it look like?
dan: *confused*
apparently after "hey" i then said "what's up", but it's become such an empty greeting-sound for me that i didn't even register saying it. this seemed kind of messed up at first, but it makes sense. even when i do say just what i mean, it's rarely a word for word translation of my thoughts. it's more like
brain: *send a friendly greeting!*
mouth: hey, what's up
and that usually works quite well enough. and even in actual conversation, unless it's gotten to the depth/detail that every word holds tension, that is basically how things work, because giving consideration to every single word is just a lot of time-consuming effort.
brain: *express sympathy!* or *admire new pants!* or *whisper sweet nothings[1]!*
[1] what a bizarre expression. i love how charmingly old-fashioned it sounds, but don't like the idea it expresses - the transience of expressed feelings in the heat of the moment. though i suppose that is part of what this post is all about.
np: Godsmack - Awake - 08 - Forgive Me
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I *really* liked this one.
In terms of your footnote, I've totally turned that idea around in my head a few times on a number of occasions. | From: | (Anonymous) |
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| Date: | September 25th, 2007 10:09 pm (UTC) |
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| | its andrea, as are most of the anonymous posts | (Link) |
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you're like that guy with the donkey! the donkey in his brain! the story is like this: mens brains are wired such that the side of the brain that thinks/feels and the side that talks are separate. such that when someone asks a man what he thinks or how he feels, he has to "saddle up the donkey", travel way over to the other side of his brain to find out, then ride back into town with the answer before he can speak. that's why guys are slow to talk about feelings/ don't say a whole lot when they do.
this theory is by a comedian so i doubt its ver scientifically accurate. but its funny and that's what matters |
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