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October 9th, 2007
 | 01:21 pm - how are you sad?
kitty, who i guess would know, told me yesterday a list of typical differences between the male and female experience of depression. i come out with 3 male, 3 female, and 1 neutral. i'm curious how other people match up, so here is a poll for you. i'll tabulate this (by gender, and anything else that strikes me as interesting) for your various edutainments, but i won't say who said what, in case anyone cares.
i've starred the ones that are me.
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*female: you turn pain inward (take it out on yourself)
16(59.3%)
male: direct pain outward (take it out on others)
4(14.8%)
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female: you feel anxious and scared
8(30.8%)
male: you feel suspicious and guarded
14(53.8%)
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female: you feel you were born to fail
12(48.0%)
*male: you feel the world set you up to fail
11(44.0%)
4
female: you feel slowed down and nervous
10(38.5%)
*male: you feel restless and agitated
13(50.0%)
5
*female: you have trouble setting boundaries
11(42.3%)
male: you need control at all costs
13(50.0%)
6
*female: you feel guilty for what you do
15(55.6%)
male: you feel ashamed for who you are
10(37.0%)
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female: you are uncomfortable receiving praise
10(37.0%)
*male: you are frustrated if not praised enough
9(33.3%)
note! kitty has posted a whole bunch more differences in the comments, if yer interested. i don't feel like making another poll tho, so science will just have to suck it.
np: Shooby Taylor - The Human Horn - 02 - Lift Every Voice and Sing
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i can't do it because i'm not sad.
also, i think if you had left off the "male" & "female" labels in the poll you'd get more accurate answers. i tried to start answering but i was choosing based on the label and so i stopped. i guess i could've left off the labels, and tabulated it all after. but ya know, i didn't really care enough to bother. so this still gives you a good sense of the spread total list:
Females: Turn their pain inward
Males: Direct their pain outward
Females: Blame themselves
Males: Feel others are to blame
Females: Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless
Males: Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated
Females: Feel anxious and scared
Males: Feel suspicious and guarded
Females: Avoid conflict at all costs
Males: Create conflicts
Females: Cover their pain by being nice
Males: Are overtly or covertly hostile
Females: Withdraw when feeling hurt
Males: Attack when feeling hurt
Females: Have trouble with self respect
Males: Demand respect from other
Females: Feel they were born to fail
Males: Feel the world set them up to fail
Females: Feel slowed down and nervous
Males: Feel restless and agitated
Females: Trouble setting boundaries
Males: Needs control at all costs
Females: Feel guilty for what they do
Males: Feel ashamed for who they are
Females: Uncomfortable receiving praise
Males: Frustrated if not praised enough
Females: Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses and doubts
Males: Terrified to talk about weaknesses and doubts
Females: Strong fear of success
Males: Strong fear of failure
Females: Need to "blend in" to feel safe
Males: Need to be "top dog" to feel safe
Females: Use food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate
Males: Use alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self medicate
Females: Believe their problems could be solved only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, or friend.
Males: Believe their problems could be solved only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them better.
Females: Constantly wonder, "Am I loveable enough?"
Males: Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved enough?"
![[User Picture]](https://l-userpic.livejournal.com/18576244/98229) | | From: |  kingnixon |
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| Date: | October 10th, 2007 04:16 am (UTC) |
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| | ones that are me | (Link) |
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Females: Turn their pain inward
Males: Feel others are to blame
Females: Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless
Females: Avoid conflict at all costs
Females: Cover their pain by being nice
Males: Are overtly or covertly hostile [passive agressively]
Females: Withdraw when feeling hurt
Females: Have trouble with self respect
Males: Feel the world set them up to fail
Females: Trouble setting boundaries
Females: Feel guilty for what they do
Males: Frustrated if not praised enough
Females: Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses and doubts
Females: Need to "blend in" to feel safe
Females: Use food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate
Males: Use alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self medicate
Males: Believe their problems could be solved only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them better.
Males: Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved enough?"
tally: female 11, male 7
| | From: | kingnixon |
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| Date: | October 10th, 2007 08:54 pm (UTC) |
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| | okay also | (Link) |
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Females: Believe their problems could be solved only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, or friend) dan.
and maybe Females: Feel they were born to fail. that sounds to me like fated/deserve to fail, which i don't feel. but like genetic propensity? that shit ain't my fault you come from a long line of failure. ![[User Picture]](https://l-userpic.livejournal.com/3452796/21744) | | From: | melley |
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| Date: | October 10th, 2007 02:20 am (UTC) |
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i started to take that poll and then realized i was just marking everything. I can't even relate to half of these options... |
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