October 29th, 2007
|10:15 pm - desiree [copypasted from julie]|
i know that this is not an ideal way to communicate this type of news, but desiree is really really sick. she had a seizure on friday at her house and was taken to the hospital. she was conscious friday and most of saturday, just really run down. i visited her sunday morning and she definitely knows you're there, but she can't really talk or stay awake. while i was there the doctor came in and told her mom that the reason she hadn't been given any iv fluids or a feeding tube (since she hadn't eaten anything since friday) was because she's basically dying.
last night when i visited her she wasn't conscious at all. she's on fluids and a morphine drip to "keep her comfortable" now. there's nothing else that the doctors can do and they think that she'll die within the next few days.
we're all hoping that she'll at least have a few lucid moments where she can talk to people, but no one knows exactly how it's going to go. this all happened really fast and no one really saw it getting this bad so quickly.
again, i'm sorry to let you all know this way, if you weren't aware of the situation already, but i honestly don't have it in me to make all of the required phone calls and explain the situation over and over again.
[okay so a lot of you have no idea who desiree is. we were roommates for a year when i was at unh, with kevin and julie. she's one of julie's best friends. honestly, we aren't really close at all, i hardly ever talk to her. but she's someone i feel incredibly warm towards, if that makes any sense. but anyways, she had brain cancer, so this wasn't unexpected, per se. it just got a lot worse really suddenly, and i am sad, and i am going up to see her tomorrow]
|Date:||October 30th, 2007 05:46 pm (UTC)|| |
I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's illness. Please know that if you need anything, and I am sending my most dulcet hopes for her health.
Note that I recognise you are speaking of a lady who is dying. However, while there's no easy way to die, a constant drip of morphine and the gentle words of beloved friends and family must make the inevitable thanatophobia easier. Remember that the sense of hearing is the last one to go, so even if she seems completely unresponsive, chances are excellent that she can hear you. Even if you're speaking of silly things, don't worry — she cared and she wants to know that her friends are doing well and thinking of her.
Jessica Allan Schmidt
p.s. most importantly, please don't speak of her, in her presence particularly, as if she's already dead. she may be circling the drain but she ain't down it yet, and it's a bit insulting to predict. you never know, she might make a miraculous deathbed recovery and then have a blast tormenting you guys for the rest of your life.